(image via here)
Creating a community? Really? But only if I agree with everything you say, post and comment.
Right. Sounds like just the kind of supportive community I want to be a part of. Where differences are valued, troubles are shared and people are supported. Or not.
Earlier this week, I saw a post on a community style site. The owner of the site had snapped a pic of a mum in a shopping centre, doing something not particularly smart, (but possibly at a weak moment, who knows?), captioned it with a PSA and then Instagrammed it, Facebooked it and shared it on Twitter.
I don’t need to go into the details, many of you will have seen it and for those that didn’t, it actually doesn’t matter, it’s not the point of this post.
While I was disappointed in the way the site owner chose to share her displeasure at this other mum, in such a public way, I chose not to comment, but I wasn’t surprised when other mothers did comment.
Some were horrified with the parent in the picture. Others were horrified with the site owner.
Now. Here’s where I get cranky.
I am a big believer in conversation. Let’s have the debate. The owner of the site must have understood that by posting that image, with the caption attached, it would create a certain amount of controversy. If she didn’t realise that, then she possibly shouldn’t be the owner of such a site.
But instead of debate, instead of letting the conversation play out, while supporting her opinion and offering reasons why she felt that way, she simply deleted.
Then she not only deleted the less than positive comments on that post (on FB), but deleted the entire post.
Then she deleted any other disagreeing views on her page.
Then posted a series of posts about how misunderstood she was. And deleted all comments that weren’t 100% supportive.
It was at that point, that I deleted her site from my feed. On all platforms; FB, Twitter and IG.
Apparently I am one of those who don’t GET her. Doesn’t UNDERSTAND her.
Because that’s everyone who didn’t AGREE with her.
Now please don’t get me wrong, I am all for deleting trolling, abusive, hateful, racist, discriminatory or insulting personal comments. No-one deserves that.
But deleting just because people don’t agree with you, no thanks. You are right, I don’t UNDERSTAND you.
A true community is supportive, open to discussion and up for the conversation.
Yes, it’s your page and you can do what you want. Yes, I absolutely agree, you will never please everyone, especially when you have a large following and have a public ‘face’ online.
But you will also never have a real community if you aren’t prepared to be challenged in your views.
My advice, for what it’s worth….be open to the discussion, be prepared to back your opinion and please, please don’t delete just because someone dares to show a dissenting view.
Who knows, you might actually learn something?