Eating at our house is always a fraught with danger kind of affair.
When Poss was younger, I literally used to dread it. Every night it would end in tears, me covered in whatever it was I had dished up to her.
Her food issues are wide ranging, and the reactions when she is presented with something that she doesn’t like are strong. We have had her spit food at us, gag, vomit, scream and cry. We have had dishes thrown on the floor and smashed. Days, weeks have passed at times without her eating a main meal.
We have timed her eating a meal and some nights it will take over an hour. To eat a simple bowl of cheese pasta. A simple meal, a meal she likes. Over an hour.
As she has gotten older, we have gotten better at it. Having her tonsils removed helped somewhat – it was physically easier for her to swallow. We now know there are sensory issues at play with some textures and sensations.
And as she got older and we figured out she wouldn’t die from only eating eggs on toast 5 nights a week, we kind of just accepted it was part of who she was and we are better at picking our battles. We dish it up and if she tries it, well, it’s a win.
However, there is one thing that still worries me. She won’t or maybe she can’t, use a knife. Some days she refuses to use a fork as well, eating with her fingers until one of us pulls her up. But I have honestly never seen her use a knife correctly. She does have some fine motor skills issues, so maybe it’s that?
But to never use a knife… I don’t know – is that normal? At what age did your kids start to use their cutlery properly?