Let me tell you a story….

Let me tell you a story. It’s not a sad story, or a scary story, although both of these things feature. It’s a love story. A story about bravery and faith. It starts with a girl. A young girl with long hair, who was a day care girl.

Her mummy and daddy both worked long hours, trying to build their careers, but treasuring all the special moments they could with their girl. You see, they wanted a good future for her. They imagined good schools and a house in a nice neighbourhood. Her mummy sometimes felt guilty, but she loved her job and knew her little girl was well cared for.

She was a happy girl, bright and interested in learning. She devoured books and loved diving into new topics, finding out everything there was to know. She loved craft, she loved to draw and she loved her teddy. She had friends and loved to play with others.

Happy poss

She grew into a school girl. Her mummy and daddy were proud to enrol her into a good school. It was chosen carefully, its values aligned with theirs. She looked so smart in her uniform, with her blazer and hat. They swelled with pride, knowing their smart little button would be in good hands.

Term one was hard. She wasn’t settling in well, they said. They were worried about her social skills, they said. She stopped sleeping. Maybe she wasn’t ready, they said.

Maybe it was because her mummy worked, others said.

Term two was harder. The little girl was not happy any more. She cried all the time and started running away from school. She hid under tables and in lockers. She cried and screamed and howled. She wouldn’t learn. She was bright, very smart, the tests told them that, but she wouldn’t learn, they said.

Maybe another school would be better, others said.

Sad poss

But her teachers, they knew. Her school principal, she knew. Her mummy and daddy, they knew. There was more. More to this story of the little girl with the long hair.

Maybe she is just a bad, naughty child, others said.

Then one day, she lashed out at another child. She was angry and upset. She didn’t know what else to do. It wasn’t the right thing to do. But it started a chain of events.

The others got louder. Maybe it was because her mummy worked. Maybe another school would be better. Maybe she is just a bad, naughty child. A bad, naughty child. Louder and louder they got.

Her mummy and daddy took her to see doctors. The paediatrician met with the little girl with the long hair. She met with her for all of 5 minutes and she knew. She knew there was more to story of the little girl with the long hair. She knew she had Aspergers.

And that was the start of a whole other story.

new story poss

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  1. Love it. Love the 3rd person perspective. What a story. But what an ordeal. I hope it’s better now and those people who dared comment on the decisions made, decisions that worked for your family and are no-one else’s business, have stopped commenting on silly things that have no bearing on who your darling daughter is.
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    • Thanks so much Kate. So pleased that it reads as well to you as it did to me 😉 It has been an ordeal and one that I suspect is long from over. But we have lots of support, and most importantly, Poss has lots of understanding and support at school. It makes all the difference in the world. xx

  2. The more I read, the more Boy Child and Poss seem similar. We had hiding and crying but thankfully no running away.
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  3. Michelle says:

    So heartfelt and real…need tissues!!

    • Aw thanks Shell. It’s a hard story to tell and it’s only the first chapter – thank you for your support xx

  4. Beautifully written Renee.

    My son, he is still considered a bad, naughty child by many at his school. I cannot wait to start over for him, in a place where people will know from the outset that he is not bad or naughty, he is just different.

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    • We did seriously consider doing the same thing… just starting somewhere new. But we were fortunate to have a really supportive community – the voices, while loud and strong, were a minority.

      I can completely understand your reasoning though and know it forms part of a larger plan for you guys. And it will be a wonderful thing! xx

  5. Carolyn says:

    I, for one, am extremely glad that Poss went to that particular childcare. Hers was the first birthday party that Miss A was invited to, and I skipped work to come along. Fortunate, after all these years of friendship, that I did. Knowing Poss & your family has enriched our lives. So, thank you! Thank you for the decisions you’ve made that made my life, and my daughter’s life, better.

    To those people who ‘blame’ Poss’ diagnosis on you going back to work I say poppycock (mainly because I can’t spell the sound I make when I blow them a raspberry). What a load of rot!! If this were the case there would be aspies galore in every classroom in this country – based on Poss & her family (and compared to the behaviour of some of the ‘normal’ kids & their family) this wouldn’t be such a bad thing.

    Love you guys xo

    • Thank you gorgeous girl! You make me all warm and fuzzy!
      We will forever be grateful for having found you guys too xx

  6. A beautifully written story Renee, loves the different angle for hearing about sweet Poss. xxx
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  7. This is very sweet, such tenderness.
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  8. I reading this post with such understanding and awe of your strength, I am a proud mother of a talented boy whom has Aspergers, and a first time reader, I look forward to following your blog.
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    • Thank you so much for taking the time to comment Danielle and for you kind words. xxx I look forward to seeing you around the blog!

  9. Thank you for writing this. I have a 6 yr old girl, Phoebe, who we think has Aspergers, she is an awesome little girl with a cracking sense of humour and an enormous heart. But we still have lots of struggles everyday with her anxieties and worries. I have added you to my blogs to read as it is good to hear about other girly aspies out there!
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    • I am so pleased you found me Vix. Anxiety is a huge struggle for us too, as it is with lots of kids on the spectrum. Thanks for taking the time to comment and I hope to see you around the blog xx

  10. Oh Renee. How those voices trying to put blame somewhere hurt.

    And what a beautiful girl you have. x
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    • Thank you so much Lee. Yes, they do hurt. And even 18 months later, they still hurt. But we have learned from them, we now know our daughter better than we ever would have otherwise and they pushed us to deal with something that might have gone unattended to longer.

      And thank you – we think she is kinda special!! xx

  11. Beautiful post Renee. People can be so shortsighted x
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  12. Oh Renee, your story is our story. My Buddy girl is 8 going on nine and whilst I always knew there was something advanced, but thwarted about her Socially and Emotionally, no friends or family supported my suspicions or encouraged me to follow-up on them. It wasn’t until she was in the care of a qualified teacher ( at Daycare) that I was hearing what I was thinking…from a stranger. I hope your journey is one of inspiration and joy, despite the harder more strenuous times that ASD brings to a family.

    • Thank you so much Belinda. It’s bitter sweet, I hate to think others have walked the same road, but in the same regard, it makes our journey that bit easier knowing we aren’t doing it alone.

  13. Hi Renee,
    This is an amazing post! It could almost be our Xas, the stories are so similar. She loves reading & is so advanced with school but never feels comfortable being there. Our first indication was an altercation at school, that was almost 18 months ago and we’ve been trying to figure it out ever since. She was diagnosed a month ago now & we finally feel like we’re moving in a forward direction (albeit a slow one, but progress nonetheless!). I love reading all your new posts (so does my husband), but I find myself re-reading your older posts because they give us hope and inspiration for our own journey with our girl and this thing called Aspergers. Thank you for sharing & letting us into your lives. When the world is going all too fast, it’s really nice to be able to sit still for five minutes and read your emails and feel understood.

  14. I have been in tears reading of your highs and lows. Words are so powerful, they have the ability to raise us up or bring us crashing to our knees. I hope your little girl hears word of kindness and love.

    I tutor a 13 year old boy (I have known him for 8 years); he has Aspergers. It breaks my heart to see others not understanding this kind, intelligent boy; all he wants is a good friend…
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  15. This could be my son’s story. Except his school was not so understanding. They viewed him as a bad naughty boy who wouldn’t learn. I knew better. I found him a good school, where the teachers found out what he was good at and treated him as more than a number who had to ‘fit’ a profile. They brought out his strengths and gave him confidence, and worked with me to help him at home. It made such a difference. But gosh it has been a journey, and those first long months were awful.
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  16. I adore the way you write. I only just read you for the first time this morning. What have I been doing?
    If you find random comments on old stuff you know I’m having a proper safari through your archives!

  17. Thank you for telling your story! Thank you for sharing your experiences and your beautiful daughter, helping other families who may be experiencing what you have been through. A beautiful blog. I’m looking forward to reading more and sharing your story with others. Thanks again.


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