Not making resolutions

Not making resolutions

For the last few years I’ve refused to make new years resolutions. Like most people, I don’t keep them, and really, I’ve got enough things to beat myself up about without adding some false pressure around goals I’m sure to fail at.

Instead, I’ve chosen a word to focus on. The idea is that if you keep repeating a word, you’re more likely to make decisions based around that word; guiding you to make choices that will help you move towards where you want to be. I don’t have a vision board, but I guess it’s a word version of a vision board.

Balance was my word of choice for 2013, and I kind of backed it up again in 2014. I’m sure I’m not alone in this; I’d suggest most working parents, or scratch that, parents full stop, seek balance.

The irony is that for the past year I’ve worked more than I’ve worked in a long time. Full time hours, plus blogging, Poss’ therapy commitments and some kind of social life have all been squeezed into a short seven days.  Yet, we’ve probably come the closest to balance that we’ve been in years.

The full time hours have allowed me to simply say no to things, instead of trying to shoe-horn them in, because I only work part time, right? I’ve pulled back on socialising, and we’ve bought in extra help around the house to make sure that things run smoothly day to day.

It’s not perfect. Some weeks we all just collapse come the weekend, any thought of seeing friends and family is just beyond us. Other weeks, I miss things at Poss’ school, or can’t be there for something that Husband needs. We make sacrifices, and choices are made about priorities, both consciously and unconsciously on a daily basis.

Some days it works, some days it doesn’t, and there are things we’ll improve for this coming year; things I no longer stress myself about and won’t put myself through anymore.

No doubt, the approaching year will throw things at us that I can’t even begin to predict, but at least we’re coming from a more stable, balanced place to be able to deal with them.

So what does that mean for the word for 2015?

I’ve sat on this post for a few days and I still don’t know. Words have bounced around in my mind and I flit from one thing to another, unable to settle on just one thing to focus on.

Maybe I’m not ready to chose? Maybe it’s not a single word, but a phrase that I need this year? Maybe I should just pour another gin, stop using head space to think about words and get on with the year?

There’s a phrase that keeps popping up in my mind from the ever eloquent Hagrid (of Harry Potter fame, but if I had to explain that, you might not be reading the right blog…), “what’s comin’ will come and we’ll meet it when it does”.

Maybe that’s all we need.

Tell me, are you making resolutions, picking words or just pouring a gin?

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