The nature of change

The nature of change

Change is hard for everyone. There is no denying that most humans are creatures of habit; generally speaking we tend to find what works for us and then repeat that day in and day out. Whether it be wearing the same shoes, driving the same way to work or eating at the same restaurants; routine is comforting.

If we do something out of the ordinary, we’re often called brave. Even if we’re not heralded as inspirations (although that word is thrown around far too often for my liking), those who thrive on doing new things are often looked to as innovators, the ones who think outside the box.

And there is that portion of the world out there for whom change makes their hearts sing. Thank god for them, I say. We need those people to do the things first, take that step into the unknown, so the rest of us can tentatively follow behind.

Imagine if no-one had taken that step to try the part of the pig that makes bacon? Or drink that white stuff that comes from cows that we know as milk (and it’s fabulous cousins, cheese and cream). The world would be a much sadder place.

However, I am not one of those people. And neither is Poss. Ambiguity is not my friend and the unknown is pretty much my enemy. I understand Poss’ intense need to understand what is coming next, to revel in the routine that is her world. It’s safe, it’s comfortable, it’s almost completely predictable.

So when things outside of our control change, I understand her distress. Although to be fair, I’m unlikely to shed tears over a change of product packaging, or new hosts on the breakfast radio show, I understand that it’s a spectrum. And I empathise with her need for everything to just stay the same.

When things do change, it’s often not the new thing itself that she is so upset about. It’s simply that there is a new thing.

We’ve dealt with the abandonment of Zayn from One Direction this week, as well as a change of recipe for one of her favourite meals, Kraft Mac and Cheese.

Both resulted in outcomes that are less than ideal; One Direction will now be a foursome, and she doesn’t like the new recipe, but it doesn’t matter. It’s actually irrelevant. It’s the new, the unknown, the different.

So we’ll stop buying the new Mac and Cheese. She’ll listen to her old One Direction music, while looking at her old posters of the five of them. We’ll hold her tight, wipe her tears and try to find the words to make it better. For a while, it will hold the cracks together

Eventually the new will become old, normal and predictable, while the old will be obsolete and forgotten. Then there will inevitably be something else that will come along and steal our attention, give us something new to worry about or embrace depending on our point of view. And the cycle will repeat.

And that’s the nature of change.

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  1. Tiffany struggles with the smallest changes, this week with school term ending was a struggle. We also bought a car which she was convinced was a bad change, she had a feiend sleep over which changed her routine and we spontaneously went to warrnambool for the day which wwas a huge change. So as i sit her with Tiffany snuggled into me while i read your blog, i empathize with you and work out how we are going to deal with tomorrow’s changes.

  2. Kim Abbate says:

    We have several packets of the ‘old’ Mac & Cheese thanks to the glutton known as Costco. I’ll happily pass them onto your girl. There have been a number of changes and you’re both navigating that minefield so well xx

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